The One with the Vest

Happy Saturday! Today I want to discuss social media and the false expectations that we as bloggers face every day.  As you know, my blog is new, however, I have been following many blogs for a few years now, along with Instagram pages.  I know how many times it is way to easy to play the “comparison” game.  I myself, do it even.  I think that we as women just have this thing in our brain, and it’s really very hard and complicated to overcome.  I have to seriously mantra myself every single day that “I am strong. I am smart. I am me. I am enough.”

The constant critiquing and criticizing of women is so frustrating.  I mean, the men that tweeted very rude comments about Lady Gaga after the Super Bowl just angered me so much.  As a woman, for starters, we all were oohing and ahhing over her amazing performance.  Secondly, I don’t know about you all, but I could not stop staring at her amazing legs, I mean, they are freaking fabulous! Thirdly, and finally, not that it needs any justification, but that stomach that they were criticizing was solely because of her wardrobe and tight pants.  She is in no way fat, and I can’t even begin to describe my disgust with humanity for shaming her.  I know I alone can’t make it stop and there are many women out there fighting to make it stop.  So thank you, and you go ladies.  I can only hope that one day, for the sake of our future daughters, we win.

Anyway, back to that “comparing” game.  If we are to win the fight against men, we as women need to stop shaming each other first.  I am in awe of the beautiful and amazing bloggers and am thrilled that they have found their passion in life.  I never wish them ill.  I never would say the facetious things I see in their comments like “must be nice to live like that,” because I know first hand how much hard work goes into being a blogger. Why can’t you just say things like “that’s beautiful.”? Why be mean? What in your life is making you do that? It’s not on them, it’s on you.  Make your life better.  Make a plan and change your situation.  Only you have the power to change your own life.  If you have the time to go and make these mean comments, then you certainly have the time to brainstorm how you to can do what they are.  So go do that.  STOP being mean.  Stop comparing yourself to them.  Stop comparing yourself in general. You are you. Instead of comparing, start learning.  Start taking notes and start doing what they are, in your own way.

Trust me here, I’m only saying all of this because I need to listen to it too. It’s so easy to fall down into that comparison hole, especially in this blogging world. (i.e. it’s fashion week right now and it’s almost summer so #fitnessgoals, ugh). But, I am making a conscious effort to stop falling, and start climbing.  I am embracing the fact that I can’t be at fashion week (and I’m just not built like those beautiful workerouters), and instead, I am thoroughly enjoying seeing all of the amazing posts and videos.  I am using them as inspiration and bettering myself.  I know I will likely never be able to own Chloe, or Louis, or anything that makes certain bloggers “famous.”  I am ok with that. I have my style, and it’s affordable, and it’s for the 70+% of us women.  I am doing me.  Obviously, I hope that you enjoy it, because that’s what we all want.  I want to help you all be fabulous and fashionable.  We all just want to be loved.  So spread some love today to some pretty gals, and be nice. Have a happy weekend! <3

Shoes: Adidas Superstars(size down) Adidas; or Here; Vest: JCrew (on sale!): Jcrew; Jeans: Similar: Here or Here; Plaid (sold out), amazing cold shoulder: here or super cute: here; Purse: Marshalls, but you get here: here; Sunglasses: Jcew (on sale): here

P.S., I must wish a happy birthday to the one and only Jennifer Aniston today! She is my idol (clearly, lol). πŸ™‚

xoxo, Nat

26 Replies to “The One with the Vest”

  1. Great post!! Good luck with everything!!! Cute vest lady.

    1. Thanks Amanda! Happy Wednesday!❀

  2. I totally agree! We are here to empower each other!
    such a fun photo shoot!

    xx – Courtney Bentley || http://www.courtneyvioletbentley.com

    1. Thanks girlfriend! Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day! <3

  3. I love everything about this post. I’m still fairly newish to blogging and it’s so easy to compare yourself to others. I definitely have to take a step back every once and awhile and bring myself back to reality (lol!) and celebrate my own accomplishments (which may be small to others!) Have a great week girl!

    XO-Kim
    http://www.simpleyetchic.com

    1. Right?! We are all fabulous! Have a great Valentine’s Day dear! <3

  4. Love this post! In the world of blogging it’s so important to stay true to yourself. It’s so easy (especially on Instagram) to compare ourselves to others who, like you said, have a team behind them. It’s not realistic. What makes the blogging community so great is that we’re all different!

    xo,
    Leanne
    http://www.thestyledsuburbian.com

    1. Thanks Leanne! Have a super Monday!

  5. Great look – love the vest with those shoes. Keep the inspo coming! xo
    allie
    http://www.mi-style.net

    1. Thanks so much Allie. I sure do plan to!

  6. this is so inspiring! great post

    1. Thanks Mary! Have a great Monday!

  7. I love so many things you said. The comparing is the worst, esp when you’re comparing yourself as a blogger to people who are professionals or who have entire teams behind them. Thank you for this post!

    xx, Pia
    http://gymbagsandjetlags.com

    1. Thanks gf! Have a wonderful Monday!

  8. Thank you so much for the inspiring post and the reminder to just be yourself and realize that’s enough.

    Cheers, J
    http://www.cheersj.com

    1. Thanks Jenna! Happy Monday gf!

  9. Love how you put this outfit together. I have one of these but never know how to wear it.

    http://anaturellecraving.blogspot.com/

    1. Aww, so glad I could help you with ideas! Thanks so much, Nicole! Have a great Monday!

  10. Yes, let’s not focus on the negative, but be women who uplift and encourage each other! Congrats on the new blog, it’s such a big accomplishment!

    Meaghan xx

    1. So true! Thanks, Meaghan! Have a fabulous Monday!

  11. Love this post. I totally agree with you, shaming her was not right. She actually looks good. People most of the time focus on the negative. You look great by the way.
    Xo, CHRISTIANNE
    http://simplychristianne.com

    1. Thanks so much Christianne. Have a wonderful Monday!

  12. Great post! i love the causal styling of your jeans. I agree we need to stop comparing eachother and just focus on your goals. We are all working towards what we feel we want to achieve.

    xoxo
    Ifeoluwa
    ifesstyleroom.com

    1. Thanks so much Ifeoluwa! Happy Monday girlfriend!

  13. Great Post! I also don’t believe women should discourage each other, men will hear and see that then they start doing it. The Green monster can get the best of people and I always try my best to remember what my mother taught me “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say it at all.” I may do a dupe Chloe bag post one day! I have always wanted one, but no way could I afford it, even if I could I just can’t imagine spending so much on a bag. Love your outfit by the way!

    -Brandi K
    http://www.cutebrandik

    1. I would love to see your post about a Chloe dupe! Thank you, Brandi and happy Monday!

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